S:1240 Great Question: Meaningful?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What would make my life more meaningful?” Coaching Point: It’s been my experience that few contemplate this Great Question with any frequency. It’s a really good question. It’s positive. It’s an inquiry which, by asking it, pulls you forward. Notice it’s not about what’s off, […]

S:1239 Great Question: Facts?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What are the facts?” Coaching Point: Full disclosure – I really dislike being confronted by an awareness that what I have held as ‘fact’ isn’t. I enjoy learning, discovering, reading, discussing; in other words, gathering the facts. Precision with language, accuracy of the meaning of […]

S:1234 Great Question: Think About?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I think about most?” Coaching Point: This is a trick question. In two ways. First, it’s not only about what you think consciously, it’s also about your unconscious thoughts. At a conscious level of awareness you may be having thoughts of some outcome […]

S:1227 Great Question: Fear To Hear?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I fear to hear?” (Or see?) (Or experience?) Coaching Point: This S3MC surfaced when I recently realized I was avoiding having a necessary, but probably unpleasant, conversation. As I projected the thought of it onto the future the imagined emotional energy felt really […]

S:1217 Great Question: Look Forward To?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I have to look forward to?” Coaching Point: You do have something you’re looking forward to, don’t you? Something interesting, maybe even exciting? Something which pulls you forward in healthy anticipation? Or do most days seem to be only attempts to escape? To […]

S:1213 Great Question: Judgmental?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “Where am I being judgmental?” Coaching Point: You know I write and share many of these weekly S3MCs based on what’s occurring in my life, don’t you? So, yes, I’ve become aware of just how judgmental I’ve been. And I see the great cost of […]

S:1202 Great Question: Right?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “What is right in my life?”   Coaching Point: We always see what we look for. So often we focus on what is wrong. Some reasons are: – we get ‘juice’ from seeing what’s wrong. – we can justify our existence by ‘fixing’ it. […]

S:1196 Great Question: Remembered?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “How do I want to be remembered?”   Coaching Point: Or do you even care to be remembered? If it’s not important to you, so be it; it’s your life and your choice. If, on the other hand, you would like to be remembered […]

S:1195 Great Question: Interest?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “What if I looked at everything with open-ended interest?”   Coaching Point: Instead of anger. Or judging, ‘justified’ resentment, condemnation, recoil, horror, fear, dismay, revulsion, righteousness, or guilt. Or even instead of longing, desire, pride, wanting, or wistfulness. What if you let go of […]

S:1191 Great Question: Peace?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Am I moving at the speed of peace?”   Coaching Point: The “speed of peace” is when you are moving at exactly the speed which offers no resistance. Move too fast, you’re trying to force an outcome; never a good idea. Forcing outcomes is […]