S:1235 Personal Need: To Be Somebody

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.) A ‘Somebody’ is rare and stands out. They have impact. They tend to be looked up to, respected, even envied. People want to be them. To need to be a Somebody is different.…Continue Reading →

S:1235a Personal Need: Explained

Tomorrow as usual I’ll be posting an S3MC. One of the early S3MC categories was on Personal Needs. I have become reawakened to the impact and costs of unmet Needs. Since I haven’t written and posted an S3MC in that category in years I thought it useful to post this brief explanation of what Personal…Continue Reading →

S:0361 Personal Needs: The Need for Publicity

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   This is a strange Need. It causes some really useful outcomes and others that are physically and emotionally costly. Think of a time when you’ve seen an actor or a politician call…Continue Reading →

S:0302 Personal Needs: The Need To Be Self-Regulating

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   This is a common need. To be self-regulating means to be in control of your own destiny. It means you get to determine how your day will unfold. No one else decides…Continue Reading →

S:0294 Personal Needs: The Need To Be Heard

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   Your first reaction might be to say that everyone has a need to be heard; we all like it when someone listens to us. However, today very few people have a place…Continue Reading →

S:0285 Personal Needs: The Need For Security

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   The Need for Security can be mistaken as a desire for security. What lets you know it is a need is if you can’t live without it for more than a short…Continue Reading →

S:0279 Personal Needs: The Need For Approval

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   The Need for Approval is pretty common. Apparently most of us did not get enough approval when we were growing up. As adults we find that in order for us to feel…Continue Reading →

S:0266 Personal Needs: The Need For Drama

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   “Drama Queen” is an old label people have used to identify certain traits in others. (Of course there are also “Drama Kings”, the label transcends gender.) So what are the characteristics of…Continue Reading →

S:0252 Personal Needs: The Need To Be Included

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   The pain of not being included, or being excluded, is a common one and typically starts in our teenage years. It may stem from not being asked to the dance or not…Continue Reading →

S:0239 Personal Needs: The Need To Be Right

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   This need has fueled more arguments than perhaps any other need. The NEED to be right is different from BEING right. When looked at from their point of view everyone is already…Continue Reading →

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