S:1320 Personal Need: To Not Be Criticized

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete, or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.) Most Needs reflect a feeling that something is missing, a hole in us, therefore we need the outside to supply it. Once supplied, we feel whole and okay – for a while. Then…Continue Reading →

S:1306 Personal Need: For Clarity

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete, or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.) Clarity is a wonderful thing. It can provide confidence, energy, action, and results. With clarity all seems possible. A lack of clarity has two main issues. First, an absence of clarity can simply…Continue Reading →

S:1289 Personal Need: To Be Respected

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete, or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.) There is nothing wrong – and much right – with being respected. To have earned the respect of your family, friends, and peers is a delightful part of life. Respect lubricates connections. It’s…Continue Reading →

S:1279 Personal Need: To Be In Control

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.) We want our leaders to lead – in the classroom, the outdoor adventure group, the company, the government unit, wherever. Some people are called to lead and are therefore in control in a…Continue Reading →

S:1235 Personal Need: To Be Somebody

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.) A ‘Somebody’ is rare and stands out. They have impact. They tend to be looked up to, respected, even envied. People want to be them. To need to be a Somebody is different.…Continue Reading →

S:1235a Personal Need: Explained

Tomorrow as usual I’ll be posting an S3MC. One of the early S3MC categories was on Personal Needs. I have become reawakened to the impact and costs of unmet Needs. Since I haven’t written and posted an S3MC in that category in years I thought it useful to post this brief explanation of what Personal…Continue Reading →

S:0361 Personal Needs: The Need for Publicity

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   This is a strange Need. It causes some really useful outcomes and others that are physically and emotionally costly. Think of a time when you’ve seen an actor or a politician call…Continue Reading →

S:0302 Personal Needs: The Need To Be Self-Regulating

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   This is a common need. To be self-regulating means to be in control of your own destiny. It means you get to determine how your day will unfold. No one else decides…Continue Reading →

S:0294 Personal Needs: The Need To Be Heard

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   Your first reaction might be to say that everyone has a need to be heard; we all like it when someone listens to us. However, today very few people have a place…Continue Reading →

S:0285 Personal Needs: The Need For Security

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)   The Need for Security can be mistaken as a desire for security. What lets you know it is a need is if you can’t live without it for more than a short…Continue Reading →

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