(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Many of these S3MCs are in the form of Distinctions, a device in which the comparison of two different (distinct) thoughts can be illuminating. Sometimes the two are contradictions, an either/or. The interesting thing about this…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Passion radiates. It defies containment, expressing itself. Some of the demonstrable attributes of passion are: exhibiting a sense of accomplishment; enjoying contributing; seeing the result of efforts as worthwhile and meaningful; interesting; feeling valuable; sensing that…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Often we are taught how to do something and we repeat the process by rote to get the outcome we want. That works fine until something goes wonky. Then we’re stuck. Examples abound with apps or…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Having a sense of urgency is useful. Feeling you need to ‘get after it’ can be a good focusing tool and lead to appropriate action. Dealing with an emergency is something else. Emergency triggers a reaction…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   If you believe you own something, yet it can be taken from you, then you are merely a possessor of it. Try not paying the property taxes on a piece of land you own and see…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Regret, we can live with. Guilt has a higher cost. What’s the difference? Intention. As an example, imagine you were really, really tired, knew you were impaired, chose to drive anyway, someone pulled out in front…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   This Distinction has a different approach than most. Usually they point out subtle, yet meaningful, differences between two words or terms. With this one the difference between What You Have and What You Don’t Have appears…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Have you ever wanted to not feel something and chose to numb out? Most of us have. Pain, upset, discomfort, fear, shame, anger . . . ugh, hard to even read the list, isn’t it? There…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   “What a good boy! I’m so proud of you.” “I know you did your best, honey. You should be proud.” These and countless other phrases are tools for teaching a child self-esteem. To develop a sense…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   While reading “The Boys In The Boat” by Daniel James Brown I saw something which had eluded me until then. The story is an accounting of the incredible 4-year journey of nine lads at the University…