S:1356 Distinction: Declare vs. Explain
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is nothing wrong about explaining or being willing to explain. Explaining is frequently the right tool when teaching, leading, managing. When you teach you transfer knowledge (and maybe even wisdom!). The person or group knows more […]
S:1351 Distinction: Stop-Doings vs. To-Dos
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When overwhelmed by more and more things to do most people throw up their hands and quit in frustration. What if you did part of that intentionally? What if you had your to-do list, sure, but also […]
S:1347 Distinction: Beacon vs. Flashlight
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Driving in the early morning dark there was a flash of light reflected off low clouds. When it repeated at consistent intervals it revealed as the rotating light from the beacon at a distant airport. [Most Distinctions […]
S:1338 Distinction: Confident vs. Arrogant (#2)
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Since writing this same Distinction many years ago [S:0478] an additional important attribute has been observed – the distinction has a binary nature. By binary I mean you are either in one mode or the other; there […]
S:1330 Distinction: Showing Up Authentically vs. Auditioning
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The genesis of this Distinction was a sentence uttered years ago about dating. “No one just goes on a date, they audition.” Meaning they were playing a part they think the other person wants to see. Or […]
S:1328 Distinction: Living With The Past vs. Living In The Past
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction emerged, like many S3MC topics, from recent experience. In this case I’ve had a major change in my life which points out the difference in the two sides of this distinction. Living in the past […]
S:1322 Distinction: Are vs. Supposed To Be
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The answer to the question ‘Who are you?’ is … who you are. Hold on, don’t roll your eyes just yet. Most people have a desire to be accepted, therefore answering the ‘who are you’ question with […]
S:1312 Distinction: Support vs. Interfere
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) What are some prime differences which make this Distinction? Intent and attachment. If someone seeks your assistance and you choose to engage, you are probably supporting. Or if you initiate an offer of assistance and they agree, […]
S:1307 Distinction: Acceptance vs. Resignation
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The words Acceptance and Resignation are frequently conflated. Incorrectly so, for they have quite different meanings and energies. Acceptance is about what-is-so, right here, right now without interpretation. When you experience acceptance you are standing in your […]
S:1305 Distinction: Gratitude vs. Guilt
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Reading several books recently about wealth – its attributes, myths, and meaning – one of the recurring themes was guilt. Most often mentioned as an emotion experienced by people who had ascended to wealth from middle- or […]