(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   At a fine-dining restaurant a few years ago the wine steward asked the patrons if they would like to order a wine to accompany their meal. A guest replied that they would like a wine that…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   It s healthy to question yourself, to ask if what you re thinking, saying and doing is appropriate for where you are now and for where you re going. Questioning yourself prevents you from getting in…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   A lot of people power their way through life using bravado. But bravado is expensive — 1) you have to continually replenish your supply, 2) you are on your own, and 3) ultimately, others see through…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   The phrase “in control” has several meanings. It is used here to describe a manipulating, heavy-handed approach to managing and leading. At its core it is fear-based. When you feel you must control others you are…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   If you think everything is a gift for you to learn from and grow, then it is. If you think everything is a test to see how you are doing, then it is. It s your…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   When talking about having freedom, most people describe what they want freedom from — financial worry, unsatisfying work, a broken relationship, or some other unpleasant situation. Freedom-from is, at its core, a driving energy. And it…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Clarity — knowing stuff, having answers — is useful. You have spent most of your life learning what you need to know to have your life work. But life has become so complex that it is…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   In order to protect yourself you may have had to put up walls. However walls are, by their nature, expensive to erect and even more expensive to maintain. One of the costs of having a wall…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Reserves are one of the best things you can work on to see your life get better. When you have abundant reserves you cease to worry, you are not easily distracted from your primary mission, and…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   “I can stop smoking any time I want. In fact, I’ve done it a thousand of times!” This is a paraphrase of the old Mark Twain statement. When you (only) stop doing something there is the…