S:1053 Great Question: True?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “For ______ to occur, what must be true?”   Coaching Point: This Great Question has two parts. The ______ is whatever outcome you are seeking. This future part of the question must be in place before you can look at the rest. Many other […]

S:1045 Great Question: Delightfully Surprised?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “When was I last delightfully surprised?”   Coaching Point: Really, when was the last time you had a pleasant surprise? No, not the other kind, the oh-no-what-fresh-hell-is-this kind. I’m talking about the grin-inducing, uplifting kind of surprise. Here are some attributes and causes of […]

S:1037 Great Question: Reminding?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Am I reminding people of what I want?”   Coaching Point: Most of the time people simply need to be reminded of what you want. Not lectured. Not made wrong for not remembering. Simply reminded. But wait, you might say, what right do I […]

S:1011 Great Question: Five People?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Am I the average of the five people I hang around most?” Coaching Point: It has been said by many for years that each of us are so influenced and shaped by the people closest to us that we become the average of the […]

S:1007 Great Question: Demonstrating?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Am I demonstrating the story I’m telling?”   Coaching Point: We are all telling a story all the time. The story we’re telling is ‘our’ story, the story of our life as we see it. That’s just part of being human and living. To […]

S:1002 Great Question: Do?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Well, okay, what am I going to DO about it?”   Coaching Point: Our wired-in responses to threats are the well-known Fight, Flight, Freeze or Faint. However, short of a full–on threat there may be no impetus to action or even to a decision. […]

S:0996 Great Question: First Time?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “When was the last time I did something for the first time?”   Coaching Point: Doing something for the first time has risks, unknowns, doubts, hesitancy, and fear. No wonder we slow down, stop trying new, become comfortable with sameness, repeatability, certainty. Life is […]

S:0994 Great Question: How Good?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “How good can I stand for my life to be?”   Coaching Point: At first glance this may seem like a nonsensical question. You might think most people would have the knee-jerk reaction, “I want it all. Bring it on!” But that’s not the […]

S:0981 Great Question: Big Lie?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “What is the Big Lie I’m telling myself?”   Coaching Point: Your Big Lie is that story you tell yourself which is holding you back from living the full expression of your life. You may be completely unconscious to the story. Or you may […]

S:0967 Great Question: Loving?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “What’s the most loving thing I can do, for myself, right now?”   Coaching Point: That’s not ‘selfish’ or ‘greedy’ or ‘needy,’ it’s ‘loving.’ The benefits of treating yourself in a kind and loving way have been documented, studied, and proven for many years […]