(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Remember the last time (maybe today?) you had the thought, “I’ve got to go do X.” Got To energy has a certain cost. It can drive you to accomplish wonderful things, but it is ultimately a…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Faint are well-known reactions to threat situations and are described thoroughly in psychology literature. This distinction introduces another option. Sometimes, when we’re given the opportunity to be free, we freeze. The reasons…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Generally, we think it’s good to be able to focus. We can accomplish a lot when we focus. Focusing provides efficiency of action and effective results. But there are times when you don’t want to focus…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   This seems, at first glance, to be an obvious distinction; clearly goal setting is not anything like worrying. But look deeper. Worrying is: getting a clear picture full of emotion about exactly what you DON’T want…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Being responsible for your life is a position of strength. Own your actions; own your results. That’s being fully responsible. It doesn’t mean that everything always works out in the way you want it to. It…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   It’s now recognized that people have many more abilities than they suspect. For instance, it’s been said that “women are more intuitive than men.” What’s become clear is that everyone has intuitive ability, it’s simply that…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Most people seem to enjoy fixing things. Something is broken, fix it. Something is out of whack, fix it. It can be very satisfying to fix stuff. So satisfying that some people look for things which need…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   This distinction is about far more than food, but food is a great metaphor. When you eat you take in sustenance. That’s useful, but dining is more: > Eating can be done alone. Dining typically includes…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   If you decide to not give your time and attention to something is it because you’ve looked at the situation and decided it’s not important to you? Or is it because you just don’t care? The…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   We all know the dangers of a mine field — frozen behavior, dismemberment, maybe even death. Mine fields are ugly, scary things. Our minds can also have scary stuff buried. Nearly everyone has memories which contain…