(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Inquiry is powerful. Reaction is not. A calm review of a situation can show you things, teach you things, assist your growth. A panicked, short-of-breath, Oh-my-gosh, I’m-almost-overwhelmed reaction rarely teaches you anything. Frequently practice the inquiry…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Imagine facing the task of cleaning out the over-stuffed basement of your house. You may find that the thought of what it will take to complete the job is so overwhelming you never start. Attachment to…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Having a lot of to-do’s can feel burdensome, maybe even overwhelming at times. One reason is because there may be something extra added to the to-do. A to-do is simply a task you have decided to…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   When was the last time you heard an idea and thought, “I knew that”? You took a class, or read a book, or listened to an audio program and got a bunch of new plans, actions…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   What do you really desire? Is it reasonable? There seems to be some confusion around these two topics, desire and reason. A long-time style of goal setting teaches that there are several basic components of an…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   The old saying “Nice guys finish last” has lost its truth. Today, when you ask people “With whom do you like to do business?” the answer “Someone nice” is usually near the top of the list…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   To have and accomplish goals makes life better. Why? Because when you decide what you want and go for it and achieve it, you just won.(The goals described here are ones you choose, not “shoulds” imposed…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Are there important things you need to do or have done? And do you ever take it personally? Most people answer “yes” to both questions because they’ve got them collapsed together. Pulling them apart will clarify…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Having an internal frame of reference is totally different from having an external one. The phrase “frame of reference” refers to where you put your attention. When you reference externally you get your sense of Self…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Nobody likes to fail; it feels yucky. Failure is the reaction you have when something doesn’t turn out the way you wanted or expected it to. Notice the word “reaction” in that sentence. Failure is not about…