(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Stuff happens. Some of it is stuff we don’t like, wish hadn’t happened, and really don’t want to remember. But it’s there. It’s right there inside. One way to deal with the past is to try…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Awareness, action, change, growth. One of the core elements of a coaching relationship is the topic of change. Change happens in many ways and there may be lapses during the change. A lapse is a momentary…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   There are two uses of the word “expectation” in the world of coaching and personal development and, without a clear definition of which is being used, can cause confusion. The first use is to describe a…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   There is an epidemic of people comparing themselves to others. Comparing yourself to others is an easy way to make yourself sick. When you compare your…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Notice how a child experiences a new toy. They have a sense of wonder and delight. They don’t know what it is or how it works, but they’re not afraid they will make a mistake or get…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   “I won’t” is a position based on choice. “I can t” is a position based on reaction. There are some things you probably can t do such as high jump 8 ft., run a sub-4-minute mile…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   To compete is useful. Just as steel sharpens steel, competition can make you (or your team/your company) sharper by honing your skills. When you feel competitive you re naturally looking for ways to exceed your previous…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   This is a sneaky distinction. Many people have these two collapsed — they automatically think that if something needs to get done, they are the one to do it. This is, of course, particularly and understandably…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Actors are frequently told to be vulnerable in order to tap into the subtle attributes of the character they are portraying. In popular literature people who are vulnerable are seen as somehow better off than others…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   You already know this distinction because you have felt the difference between being productive and being hectic. Having a full and productive schedule can be fun. At the end of the day you can feel a…