(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Does what I’m doing bring more joy into the world?”   Coaching Point: Is bringing more joy into the world even part of your thoughts? It wasn’t for me. For years I was just scrambling, trying to keep up and get ahead. I would …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “What am I afraid of?”   Coaching Point: Fear is a powerful motivator to do … nothing, to stay frozen. Merely by asking this Great Question you begin to diminish the hold a fear has on you. Being willing to look it in the …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “What do I need to let go of?”   Coaching Point: Hanging onto old hurts, unfulfilled desires, and attachments is expensive. Dragging around fears, guilts, angers, and resentments is tiring. Keeping an image of yourself which is less than what you really are is, …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “For ______ to occur, what must be true?”   Coaching Point: This Great Question has two parts. The ______ is whatever outcome you are seeking. This future part of the question must be in place before you can look at the rest. Many other …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “When was I last delightfully surprised?”   Coaching Point: Really, when was the last time you had a pleasant surprise? No, not the other kind, the oh-no-what-fresh-hell-is-this kind. I’m talking about the grin-inducing, uplifting kind of surprise. Here are some attributes and causes of …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Am I reminding people of what I want?”   Coaching Point: Most of the time people simply need to be reminded of what you want. Not lectured. Not made wrong for not remembering. Simply reminded. But wait, you might say, what right do I …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Am I the average of the five people I hang around most?” Coaching Point: It has been said by many for years that each of us are so influenced and shaped by the people closest to us that we become the average of the …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Am I demonstrating the story I’m telling?”   Coaching Point: We are all telling a story all the time. The story we’re telling is ‘our’ story, the story of our life as we see it. That’s just part of being human and living. To …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “Well, okay, what am I going to DO about it?”   Coaching Point: Our wired-in responses to threats are the well-known Fight, Flight, Freeze or Faint. However, short of a full–on threat there may be no impetus to action or even to a decision. …

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “When was the last time I did something for the first time?”   Coaching Point: Doing something for the first time has risks, unknowns, doubts, hesitancy, and fear. No wonder we slow down, stop trying new, become comfortable with sameness, repeatability, certainty. Life is …