S:1248 Great Question: Blind Spots?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What are my blind spots?” Coaching Point: Everybody has blind spots – due to our history, conditioning, acquired beliefs, DNA-level wiring, and our unique path and purpose. We have only so much bandwidth. Allocating it in alignment with what’s important to us means we are…Continue Reading →

S:1247 Distinction: Agree vs. Admit

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Admit has a sense of wrongdoing; a confession; a coming clean. One admits to a crime. Probably useful in many situations but notice there’s a bit of less-than in admitting. When I admit something to you, I…Continue Reading →

S:1246 Principle: “Your airplane”

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) When there are two capable pilots in an aircraft only one at a time is at the controls and responsible for the flying. When the one flying turns over the responsibility to the other it is considered good crew…Continue Reading →

S:1245 Quote: Kindness

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” Mother Teresa Coaching Point: This was a hard one for me to see. And I still stumble. But the effort is self-rewarding. Every time. Every. Time. Is it easy for you to…Continue Reading →

S:1244 Great Question: Interested?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What interests me?” Coaching Point: It has become popular to talk about passion. “What are you passionate about?” “Without passion life is dull.” “Follow your passion.” Passion has a point, but it can become consuming and draining. To be Interested is on Passion’s scale, just…Continue Reading →

S:1243 Distinction: Persist vs. Force

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A prime source of problems is Trying To Force An Outcome. If you enjoy solving problems, then spend your time forcing outcomes and you’ll have a steady supply! Many problems appear to come from the outside, but…Continue Reading →

S:1242 Quote: Models

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “All models are wrong, but some are useful.” George Box Coaching Point: He further said, “Since all models are wrong the scientist must be alert to what is importantly wrong. It is inappropriate to be concerned about mice when there are tigers abroad.” That’s the Signal vs.…Continue Reading →

S:1241 Great Question: WHAT!?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “WHAT!?” Coaching Point: Note the exclamation mark – “WHAT!?” needs to be read with emotion. It is more than just a simple question. It’s an expression of incredulity, of surprise, wonder, shock. WHAT!? Catch yourself asking this question and use that awareness to discover what…Continue Reading →

S:1240 Great Question: Meaningful?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What would make my life more meaningful?” Coaching Point: It’s been my experience that few contemplate this Great Question with any frequency. It’s a really good question. It’s positive. It’s an inquiry which, by asking it, pulls you forward. Notice it’s not about what’s off,…Continue Reading →

S:1239 Great Question: Facts?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What are the facts?” Coaching Point: Full disclosure – I really dislike being confronted by an awareness that what I have held as ‘fact’ isn’t. I enjoy learning, discovering, reading, discussing; in other words, gathering the facts. Precision with language, accuracy of the meaning of…Continue Reading →

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