S:1331 Principle: From Dinner To Diner

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Sometimes I never know where an initial S3MC thought will take me. This was one of those times. Had a thought about sitting on a beach and having a crab nibble on my toe, then picking up the crab…Continue Reading →

S:1330 Distinction: Showing Up Authentically vs. Auditioning

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The genesis of this Distinction was a sentence uttered years ago about dating. “No one just goes on a date, they audition.” Meaning they were playing a part they think the other person wants to see. Or…Continue Reading →

S:1329 Quote: Help

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said?” asked the boy.“Help,” said the horse. (and)“Asking for help isn’t giving up,” said the horse. “It’s refusing to give up.” –Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the mole, the fox and the Horse Coaching Point: When was the last time you…Continue Reading →

S:1328 Distinction: Living With The Past vs. Living In The Past

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction emerged, like many S3MC topics, from recent experience. In this case I’ve had a major change in my life which points out the difference in the two sides of this distinction. Living in the past…Continue Reading →

S:1327 Great Fear: Of Not Getting Out In Time

(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.) This Great Fear can hide in plain sight, like Poe’s Purloined Letter, and with as devastating an effect. If any part of this Fear resides in you then you’re always at risk of being in its control. All fears restrict us somewhat, but this one bites…Continue Reading →

S:1326 Great Question: Equanimity?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What has to happen for me to experience equanimity?” Coaching Point: First, what is equanimity and why should you care? Dictionaries variously define equanimity as a sense of peace, calmness, emotional stability, evenness of mind, and a state of maintained composure. They usually speak of…Continue Reading →

S:1325 Quote: Enchantment

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Whoever remains unmoved,whoever cannot contemplate or knowthe deep shudder of the soul to enchantment,might as well be dead,for he has already closed his eyesupon life.” Albert Einstein Coaching Point: Really? The logical, linear, brilliant thinker, Einstein, talking about Soul, about Enchantment? Those who are stuck in their…Continue Reading →

S:1324 Principle: Balance

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Balance is a universal myth. And an individual truth. Work/life balance, work/family balance, living a balanced life, and other descriptors for the ‘balance’ topic are widely used, their meanings assumed. Implied in the word is that there is an…Continue Reading →

S:1323 Quote: Point of Perception

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Man’s dilemma—now and always—has been that he misidentifies his own intellectual artifacts as reality. But these artificial suppositions are merely the products of an arbitrary point of perception.” and “Understanding does not proceed simply from examining data; it comes from examining data in a particular context. Data…Continue Reading →

S:1322 Distinction: Are vs. Supposed To Be

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The answer to the question ‘Who are you?’ is … who you are. Hold on, don’t roll your eyes just yet. Most people have a desire to be accepted, therefore answering the ‘who are you’ question with…Continue Reading →

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