(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.) A fear of loss can have at least two major ways it diminishes your freedom, your happiness. First is the constriction you feel about losing something you have. A classic example is inherited wealth. There are plenty of case histories showing 2nd and 3rd generations who…

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Let go of the lesser in order to experience the greater. This is not a bad bargain.” Ernest Holmes Coaching Point: This would seem the perfect example of a no-brainer. Who wouldn’t make that lesser-for-greater trade? Most of us, it turns out. We get stuck in the…

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) New sheets are a simple way to freshen up a bed. Of course. But if the mattress is worn out, putting new sheets on it won’t improve your sleep. Yet that’s exactly what we do sometimes: we…

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I have to look forward to?” Coaching Point: You do have something you’re looking forward to, don’t you? Something interesting, maybe even exciting? Something which pulls you forward in healthy anticipation? Or do most days seem to be only attempts to escape? To…